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Dear Abby Tells Mom to Lose Qualms About Daughter's Porn Sites 11/14/2002
It's Only the Latest Column to Promote Sexual License, Moral Relativism
By Robert Knight

It's Only the Latest Column to Promote Sexual License, Moral Relativism

Analysis/Commentary

Dear Abby is supposed to give old-fashioned, no-nonsense advice. But on November 8, 2002, she told a mother worried about her daughter selling pornography on the Internet to lighten up.

"Her Loving Mother" had told Abby that her daughter hosts "several 'soft porn' Web sites, and it upsets me greatly. She's 24 and a very bright, sweet and loving person…. 'Rhonda' earned $100,000 last year and has a sizable savings account…. How do I come to terms with this — or can I?"

Here's Abby's take on it: "DEAR LOVING MOTHER: You and your daughter have very different moral values. While it's against your principles, what she's doing is legal. She has built a successful business and wants you to respect what she has accomplished.

"That said, I doubt you will ever see eye to eye on this issue. Love her as your daughter, try to accept that this is a choice she has made, and focus on her positive qualities: She's bright, sweet and loving, not to mention a whiz at business. At this point, I doubt you can change her."

Despite her reputation as a "stern aunt," "Dear Abby" (Abigail Van Buren, aka "Popo" Phillips and her daughter Jeanne Phillips) is a wolf in sheep's clothing, and has been for years. Sandwiched in between some snappy, good advice, "Abby" smuggles in the Left's pansexual agenda. In many columns over the years, she has rebuked readers for prudery and slyly defended the racheting down of moral standards.

The current offering is a classic example; she makes a mother feel guilty and judgmental for being troubled over her daughter being a cyber prostitute. She promotes moral relativism by informing the mother that it is merely a matter of "different moral values," not morality confronting immorality. Imagine Abby telling a father that he and the drug dealer who just sold his son some cocaine have "different values." Or that a married woman and a prostitute just have "different values." Come to think of it, as to the latter, she just did.

One would think that someone giving family advice would naturally side with a mother over that of a slutty daughter, but Abby appears more interested in promoting sexual license and a false notion of tolerance. She even chides the mother for not being thrilled that her daughter is a "whiz at business." Would she be as thrilled if the woman had a son who was a "whiz" at making big bucks by selling drugs (or pimping women)?

One of the most consistent themes in Dear Abby has been the promotion of the sexual revolution in its many guises. The column consistently parrots the propaganda of Planned Parenthood, the Kinsey Institute and the Sexual Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS), using loaded terms such as "sexual beings" (as in "we are all sexual beings") and bad data. Both Abby and her sister Ann Landers have relied over the years on such authorities as Dr. Judd Marmor, former president of the American Psychiatric Association, who has consistently promoted the homosexual agenda within the psychiatric profession.

In column after column, Abby mocks people who resist the cultural sexual zeitgeist. In August 2001, Abby defended her earlier endorsement of an invitation to soak in the nude from a woman's shocked neighbors. In "Neighbors deserved notice of clothes-optional party," the reader says, "I was shocked and disappointed by your position regarding the 'straitlaced' hot tub neighbors who didn't want to soak in the nude with the neighbors. What is this world coming to when a person of your stature condones nude hot-tubbing with neighbors. Enjoying the 'therapeutic benefits' of soaking together in the nude — unless it's husband and wife alone — is a new low in moral behavior."

Abby's response: "Dear Horrified: It's neither new nor necessarily low. I have never condemned nudity — as long as it's on the up-and-up. And while I might hesitate to grin and bare it (all), scores of wholesome people from many cultures enjoy the naturalist way of life." She then runs a letter from a woman boasting about nude partying, to which Abby replies: "Different strokes for different folks."

Abby openly promotes abortion (example, from March 2000: "Life Makes Grandma Pro-Choice") and is particularly interested in promoting homosexuality. In column after column, she advises family members to accept homosexuality as normal, and repeats the unsubstantiated notion that people are "born gay" and cannot change. She has ignored a torrent of mail from former homosexuals, whose compelling stories merit no ink in her columns.

In one column, she told a parent that a young man who came out as a homosexual at age 20 "was born with a pre-disposition toward becoming gay." Recently, she has run a series of columns promoting Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) and stating flat-out that gays are "born that way" and cannot change.

In a column titled "Men becoming women aren't trespassing in ladies room," she noted that a previous column in which she advised a transsexual to go ahead and use the ladies room was met with resistance. "So I did some further research and contacted John Bancroft, M.D., director of the Kinsey Institute. … He said: 'I advise my transsexual or transgendered patients that when they present themselves as women they should use the women's rest room and vice versa. Women should feel no concern about the occasional transgendered person doing this.'"

In a May 1998 column, Abby endorsed government-approved homosexual relationships: "I am in favor of committed relationships, regardless of the sexes of the individuals. I think what makes religious conservatives uncomfortable at the notion of same-sex committed partnerships is the term 'marriage.' Call it what you will, legally recognized domestic partnerships carrying equal legal entitlements should be available to everyone."

In a 1998 column entitled "A salute to Planned Parenthood," Abby ran a long letter from a woman who was aided by Planned Parenthood and advises readers to let the group give school presentations. Abby, not surprisingly, wholeheartedly agrees, saying, "Planned Parenthood is vitally interested in providing education and information wherever it is needed."

In "Gay guardian makes friends too curious," a 1999 column, Abby runs a long letter from an 18-year-old who was raised by a homosexual man, and counsels him: "Harold's sexual preferences are personal and no business of your curious 'friend.' … Tell your friends exactly what you told me — that he is your mother, father, aunt, uncle, counselor and — most of all — your best friend. … Anyone who would imply that you should be ashamed of the way you were raised is speaking out of ignorance, is not your friend and is not worthy or your time. You have a rare and beautiful relationship."

Often, Abby uses readers' letters to paint Christians as hypocrites. For example, in a 1998 column, Abby quotes a mother of a rejected son this way: "Abby, the parents of those two boys call themselves 'good Christians.' They have pictures of Jesus all over their homes and go to church every Sunday."

Abby's sister columnist, Ann Landers (aka Eppie Lederer), is a little better, but still makes colossal errors, such as endorsing the odious book It's Perfectly Normal. Loaded with illustrations of naked people and full-throated promotions of homosexuality, the picture book is offered to schoolchildren in sex education programs. In one chapter, the book says that the Greek army fought better because the men had "gay" lovers. The book also endorses "gay families" and graphically shows a girl examining her private parts with a mirror.

In a 1997 column, Ann re-ran an excerpt from a Los Angeles Times column by Dr. Steven Sainsbury, who offered this advice: "I am recommending self-gratification or mutual masturbation, whatever it takes to release the sexual energy. This is a sane and safe alternative to intercourse, not only for teenagers but also for older men and women who have lost their partners. I do not want to hear from clergymen telling me it's a sin. The sin is making people feel guilty about responding to this basic, fundamental human drive."

In Abby and Ann's world, the only thing we have to fear is clergy (and readers) who take the Bible seriously.